is it all out of control???

yesterday, on the spur of the moment i asked my wife to spend some quality time together with me, which consisted of quiet coffee time in a relaxed atmosphere.

she had to cancel her prearranged weekly coffee time with her girlfriends.

she doesn't usually do this. she is very good with keeping her commitments, especially with these ladies. i felt very special!

later on in the day, when she saw her girlfriends, they told her what they were talking about.

they were talking about us, and the state of the economy in general.

you see, to them i am unemployed. meaning i have no job with a company and no regular paycheck. they do not understand the concept of a joint venture broker. we have no boss (only the kids) to answer to, i got laid-off from construction and fong is just a stay at home mom in their eyes.

her friends who are all 'moms' from the school where our children go, they spent half the day discussing and worrying about topics they have no control over.

how much control over the economy do you have? can you stop gm from going belly up? can you pull the world out of the global recession? probably not single-handed. there are some small things you can do and yes, it will help a little, everyone needs to do their part.

and how is her friend's worrying going to help for us or them? did they work on an action plan?

NO.

mostly they are afraid of their own husbands losing their jobs and therefore; losing their main source of income (or ONLY source). my question is what can they do for themselves? they spent valuable time worrying, which is not constructive.

they could have possibly spent time doing a resource audit and figuring out how to build different income streams for themselves and joint venturing with us to help to help everyone's.

my wife and i have a five year plan. her friends know about it, but don't really understand what it is for and what it means for our long term outlook. they can't even grasp the concept of how i can not be working at a job and still receive checks in the mail.

i do cherish the thought that there are people out there who care about our well being. this is sometimes a difficult thing to do: build solid connective relationships with others to the point where they truly care about your well being and wish that there was something they could do to help you.

during our talk, fong and i worked out finances (a couple of decent checks came in), how we can grow in our relationship, and the direction of our family.

we don't care what state the economy is in, we only care what state we are in and where we and our loved ones are going.

we only worry about what we can control, not worry about something that is out of our control.

we only think about and work on what we can do to take action and move forward with our dreams.

and in this way, we help others and will eventually accomplish our plan.